Handshake
Handshake today is an important symbol of respect and proper business greeting.
Outline
Handshake is the most comon and most meaningful physical contact.There are some basic types:
Firmly grip,pump your hand,and eye contact;
Handshakes,while guide you to somewhere;
Twists of hand,so it is on the top;
Vice-like grip;
Limp handshake.
Warm-up
Have you ever taken notice of variations about handshake?
What kind of handshake may show a person who is confident accordeng to the author?
When someon likes to dominate the situation,what is his handshake like?
When a competitive person wants to win,what is his handshake like?
Can you explain when most people become the victim of a handshake?
What do you think of limp handshake ?
Outside of Asia,the handshake is most common and most meaningful physical contact you will have with a business colleague,of course,not everyone shakes hands alike and not all variations are deliberate,Stlill,analyzing acolleague’s handshake after the fact may provide some clues into his or her character and intentions.This is,by nature,a rather inexact science,Some handshake basics:
Contact
n.communication with a person,organzation,county,etc,
There is very little contact between the two tribes.
I’ve lost contact with most of my school friends,
A state in which two people or things tunch each other
Children need physical contact with caring adults.
The girl screamed as she came into contact with water.
v.
to write to or telephone sb.
Police are to be contacted in case of emergence.
Tact: to touch,arrange
Tact n.触摸，触觉，机智，圆滑
Tacticle n.触觉的，可感觉的
Tactful机敏的，圆滑的
Intact a.未触动的，受影响的
Tactic n.a.战术（的）
Tactics n.战术，军事行动，策略
Deliberate
a.
1 intended or planned,and not happening accidentally
He is deliberate in action.
2.being slow and careul in speech,thought,or movement
He went out of the room with deliberate steps. V.
To think about something very carefully
We really cannot afford to deliberate anylonger.
They met to deliberate on possible solutions to the problem.
By nature
Someone’s character
He was,by nature,a man of few words.
Sheep are gentle by nature.
A handshake in which an indivedual grip firmly but not too firmly,pumps your hand once or twice and looks you straight in the eye can signify an individual who is confident,sees you as an equal and intends an honest,up-front negotiation of discussion,if a person continues to hold onto your hand for longer than expected,he or she may be attempting to show sincerity.

v.n
to hold something very tightly
I gripped her hands ,being afraid of losing her.
To have a strong effect on someone or something
Panic suddenly gripped me when it was my turn to speak
To hold one’s attention and interest
His speech gripped the audience.

V,to take hold of someone or something with a sudden or violent movement.
The policeman grabbed the theft by the shoulder.
The boy grabbed at the coins on the counter and ran away.
Grab your chance to travel while you are still young.
n.
made a grab of sth
The boy made a grab at the frog but it jumped away.

To represent,mean,or be a sing of sth
Some tribes use special facial markings to signify status.
Recent changes in climate may signify that global warming is starting to have an effect.
To make a wish,feeling.or opinion known by doing sth.
With a gesture Mr,Blair signifies that the three students could leave.
To ge important enough to have an effect on sth
These figures donnot really signify in the overall results.

Sign n.v.记号，信号，手势，签字
Signarure n.签名，盖章
Significance n.重要，意义，意味
Assign v,分配，直拍
Assignation assignment
Consign v.委托，寄运
Design v,n.设计，计划，订方案
Designate. V.指示，指定
Resign v.辞职，放弃
Resignation retire 退休
Notes
Upfront: behaving or talking in a direct and honest way
George wanted to help her,but she told him upfront she didn’t need it.

a.

a feeling ,belief,statement etc,that is honest and true,and based on what you really feel and believe

He was sincere in his love for literature.

Are you sincere when you say that you will help me?

Captain Brown was favorably impressed with Shelley;s earnest;sinscere manner.

n. I felt no doubt at all of the sincerity of the letter

We no longer believed in the sincerity of his utterances.

in all sincerity:very sincerely

May I say in all sincerity that your support has been most valuable?

If while shaking your hand an indivedual tries to guide you into a room or towards a seat,it may indicate that that invidual likes to be in control and insists on having his or her way.It can signal difficult talks if things do not go their way.In many Asian nations.However,such an action should be seen as a sign of respect and friendship,not a power play.

indicate

to show that a particular situation exists or that sth is likely to be true

The survey results seem to indicate aconnection betwwen poor housing conditions and bad health,

The data indicate that campus violence is more widespread than people believe.

to act or do sth to make your wishes,intentions,etc,clear

The villagers have already indicate their wiilingness to cooperate.

She indicated that she might not go to college.

dic,dict:to speak

abdicate v.辞退，放弃

dedicate v,献身，致力于，奉献，题词

vindicate v.辩护，辩解

dictate v,口述，指令

dictatotn,.独裁者

dictionary n.字典，词典

addict v,n,沉溺，上瘾，上瘾的人，瘾

contradict v.否认，反驳矛盾

indict v.起诉

predict v,预言，预示

get one's (own) way

have one's(own )way

to do what you want to,make your own decisions

If someone grips your hand then twists his hand so it is on the top,the signal is that of a competitive person who is saying that,although you may be starting out as equals,he or she will win in the end.

Most people have been the victim of a handshake where an indivedual attempts to crush your hand in vice-like grip.This is an indication of a person who is competitive.and plans to win of all  costs and associates physical strenghth with acuity .Their bark*or in this case,their handshake*is ofen much worse than their bite.

You shouldn't let the children always go their own way.

The stubborn fellow is determined to have his own way

From the first,George had shown an inclination togo his own way .

someone who has been attacked,robbed,or murdered

Most homicide vivtims are under 30.

The fire claimed 12 vitims

someone who suffers because they are affected by a bad situation or by anillness

famine(earthquake,flood)victims

polio(cholera,AIDS)vicrims

He seemed to me to be the victim of his own foolishness,.

Several people fell ill.victims of blood.poisoning

vice

n.[U];[C]

evil or criminal activities

The police had smashed a vice ring in the city.

Critizens launched a campaign to be against vice.

Gambling often leads on to other vices.

a bad or immoral quality in someone's character opposite to virtue

Gossip is her only vice.

Mr Jones recommended the young man as having no vice.

He is a wild boy but there's no vice in him.

a type of pliers

He has agrip of a vice.

the person next in official rank below someone

who can represent then or act instead of them

the vice President of the USA

the vice-captain of the criket team

the vice-chairman

the vice-consul member

sth that you lose.Give away,damage in order to achive sth

The government tried to avoid the scandal at all costs.

We must arrive there at all costs before midnight,

at the cost of

He finished the work at the cost of his health.

The poor fox escaped from the trap at the cost of a leg.

at a cost （of)

I had a small room at a cost of fifty yuan per month.

The plan is designed to achive its ends at a minimum cost.

associate

v.to make a connection in your mind between one thing or person and another

We naturally associate the name of Darwin with the doctrine of ecolution.

In the children's minds summer is associated with picnics.

n.

someone who you work or do business with

John and Paul are associates.

The thief and his associates were caught by the police.

more bark than bite说得多，做得少

Barking dogs seldom bite.爱叫的狗不咬人

Teach the dog to bark多此一举

Her bark is more than her bite.他是刀子嘴，豆腐心

Dogs that bark at a distance bite not at hand 远处狗就教，近身不会咬

If the dog barks,he gives cunsel.老狗叫是忠告

Teach an old dog new tricks 是守旧的人接受新事物

All bark and no bite只动口，不动手的人

A handshake can create a feeling of immidiate friendleness of instant irritation between two strangers,The proper handshake is brief ,but there should be firmness and warmth in the clasps.It should always be accompanied by a direct look into the eyes of the person you shake your hand with.
A firm handshake is a common way to shake hands with others.
A bone-crusher is a handshake in which overexerts his energy.
A dad-fish handshake shows one’s reluctance to shake hands
A politician’s handshake is a kind of handshake showing excessive intimacy and sincerity.
When offered by a Westerner,the limp handshake that resembles grabbling hold of a dead fish usually indicates someone with low energy and a lack of enthusiasm and confidence.In Asia such a handshake is common and is an indicator of equality,not deference.Some Southeast Asian societies will actually use their other hand to support their handshaking wrist.This is a sign of respect not weakness.
Resemble
To look like ,or be similar to,someone or sth
The boys resemble each other in that they both have ginger hair and round faces.
Mike closely resembles his father.
Sem,simu:like,same
Asseble v.集合，装配
Assembly n.集会，集合，装配
Dissemble v.隐藏，掩饰，假装
Resemblance n.类似，外观
Simulate v.假装，模仿，模拟
Simultaneous a.同时的，同时发
Simultaneity n.同时存在，同时性
Defer
To delay sth,until a later date
Let’s defer the decision for a few weeks.
To agree to accept sb’s decision or opinion because you habe respect for the person
Defer to one’s judgment
Deference
Behavior that shows that you respect sb and are therefore willing to accept their opinion
He had the arrogance of someone who had always been accustomed to deference,
They were married in church out of deference to their parents’ wished.
Fer: to carry.to bear
Ferry n.渡船
Fertile a.肥沃的，富饶的，（女性）能生育的
Fertilizer n.肥料
Confer v.给予，协商，谈判
Conference n.给予，协商，谈判
Infer v.推理，结论，表示
Refer v,交付，委托，参考，引证涉及
Reference n.委托，参考，引证
Referee n.裁判
Suffer v.承受，蒙受，忍耐，受苦
Transfer v.转送，转让，换车